When we get an understanding of our identity in Christ Jesus, you will know what love means. With these few definitions let’s learn what love means for a man and a woman. Now if you tell a woman that, “I love you”, in her world, based on the dimension of God that has been fashioned in her, you spoke something else. When you tell a man, “I love you”, in his world and based on his configuration that God has given him, that is suppose to be the derivative of the definition of love in his own world. So love does not mean the same thing in both worlds. For instance, love, for a man simply means two things, purpose and respect. Every time you attempt to tell a man that you love him, it is not so much of the emotional dimension, it is a sense of respect.
Words do not mean so much to men, it is the action. The woman who then proposed is responding to a dimension put in the man. Many men do not even know what love means to them because they do not understand what dimension of the image of God they are representing. So love means respect, honor. This is why the Bible says, “Husbands, love your wives” and says, “Wives, submit”.
Why did the Bible say submit? What is the correlation between love and submission? What does it mean to submit? It means to bring your strength under control, let the man find a place in the midst of two of you, because there is a dimension that was created. The best of a man in any family is expressed when there is submission. Men respect those above them, they love those below them and they fight those who claim equality with them, it is a design. If both genders understand the dimension they operate in, they will know how to relate with each other.
If a man tells a woman that, “I love you”, to him his definition for love means I am purpose driven, I am responsible, but the language of love means something different in the woman’s world.
For a lady, love means three things: time, maximum attention and the capacity to satisfy their emotional and psychological needs.
This is the reason why most relationships do not work, not because the man and woman are not created in the image of God, but they do not know the dimension of God they fulfill. That is why men like football, because they like to win all the time. At age fifteen, a lady already knows her wedding dress, a guy doesn’t know his wedding dress unless one week to the wedding you understand this, you will know what love means.
Many men do not even know what love means to them because they do not understand what dimension of the image of God they are representing. The best of a man in any family is expressed when there is submission. Men respect those above them, they love those below them and they fight those who claim equality with them, it is a design. If both genders understand the dimension they operate in, they will know how to relate with each other. This is the reason why most relationships do not work, not because the man and woman are not created in the image of God, but they do not know the dimension of God they fulfill. At a very young age, a lady starts responding to the dimension of God in her. At the same age, a guy is playing computer game, because he was created in a dimension to always be a winner. Ladies, hear this, “Never compare a man with others, you will kill his spirit, because he was designed to win”. A great woman who understands this dimension will know how relate with a man. Even the church, the body of Christ, tongue speaking people who love God and families are crushing because they know not this dimension. Someone once said “The composition of ladies is a whole institution, in a manner where she can be behaving so nice, next moment you would see her so moody, you can buy a lady a gift today, tomorrow, she will stone you with that same gift, generally, that is how they are, as a man, you better be used to it”.
A guy is motivated in an atmosphere that makes him know he is a winner. Some ladies will say to the guys, “Keep your promises aside and come with a manifestation, if you cannot horn don’t call me”. You see, with this kind of mindset, you are robbing the man and you are stopping yourself from seeing a dimension. A man always wants to win, he wants to know you can still love him in the process, his journey to success. If you do not play a role in a man’s journey to success, you have no inheritance. That’s why Jesus Christ put us in Himself by covenant and went through the journey to the cross, when He arrived there, He said, “By covenant, you have the right to sit with Me in heavenly places”.
The way some ladies put pressure on a man reveals how we sometimes relate with God and get Him angry. You say, “God! If you don’t give me this blessing, after two weeks, I will backslide”. In other words, you are saying to God, “Look! In two weeks, I will conclude whether you are a success or a failure”, and God tells you by these two immutable things, I have sworn by an oath and a promise that I, God cannot lie. Now, this is how a great lady responding to the dimension of God responds to a guy who is still in the process to success, “From the day I saw you, I knew that you were a winner”. Ladies don’t just love the guy because of what he can give you, but because you are ready to go all the way with him. In this way, you have responded in a way that will strengthen him, just try and encourage a man and see how he will stand with you. It is a fact that God created men to win, that’s why when he watches football match and his team wins he is a happy man, because this reminds him of what he should be. When he loses the match, he becomes angry and the lady do not get to understand him. This is because it is a psychological thing, it reminds him that he was designed to win. If you want to paralyze a man, submit to him and he will feel stupid to treat you harsh, when you try to brag and fight with a guy, there is conflict, that’s what makes the guy to react.
And for guys, not every lady is materialistic, forget what the movies tell you, if only you can be genuine and honest to the ladies, they can be strong by you. Guys, hear me, you may have only one shoe, you don’t need to create an impression. Always keep in mind that everybody who is successful has a story, a successful man without a story is just a mirage. The world is squeezing men to take on another identity and posture, which you must run away from. There are tribes that teach men that your job is only to sleep with the woman and once she has a child, that is her business, you see, that’s a false identity. Any where you are as a man, take on that posture of responsibility, the fatherhood heart will make you concern. People are getting married and don’t know what to do, because they were deceived by movies. Wake up believers, because we have an identity in Christ. No man is ever a failure, unless you choose to be, it doesn’t matter your grade in school.
All these things are determined to squeeze us from the posture God has positioned us. Ladies, refuse the false identity of this world, if you earn some money, buy books to enrich yourself, calm down with all those fancy items, allow your friends to mock and laugh at you, keep investing, when God changes your story, your friends will change your name. Don’t move around, to and fro, making yourself like a champion because the brothers are watching, ladies learn this today, the gentlemen like watching you in terms of attitude, service, virtues. Learn to be virtuous as a lady and just allow your friends to refer to you as desperate.
Ladies and gentlemen, let’s take away any mindset that comes from the world system, which is not consistent with the word of God. It redefines us and turns away our attention from the image of Christ. As we relate with the mutual understanding of God’s image in a man and a woman, we will present a perfect picture to the world.